So, I have a question for those of you out in blog country. A good friend of mine offered to through me a baby shower next month, and after some persuading I agreed to it. Don't get me wrong I would LOVE to have one, I just worry about what other people are going to think with this being girl #2.
Before you start thinking about what a horrible person i am I have to explain a few things...When we had Alaura we were dirt poor. In fact we could barley pay our bills let alone buy stuff for our new little girl. So we borrowed almost everything. We were fortunate enough to have my in laws help out with a stroller and car seat, and a friend gave us her crib, and my parents got us a glider...anything else we borrowed. Plus Alaura was born as the weather was warming up and Sydney is due during the dead of winter, so I'm trying to buy winter clothes for both girls. We've been very fortunate to have Eric's job, and normally I think we'd be ok to buy the things we absolutely need, but my trip to the hospital has really put us behind.
I'm not expecting a huge shower, or tons of stuff, I'd love the fellowship and support of my new ward and friends, and of course anything would help.
Now, here's my question...If you received an invitation to to my shower (or another person in a similar situation) would you be offended or upset?
I never asked for a shower, nor was I expecting one, but now that she's offered I'd like to do it. But I'm petrified of offending people. What do you think? And please remember that I'm a pregnant very emotional person right now.
15 comments:
Absolutely not! It shouldn't matter what other people think, it's not their place to judge. They don't always know what your circumstances are and people should just be happy that you're having a baby. I'm happy for you and I would come to your shower if I weren't miles away. :)
No, it's not weird that you are having another shower. It is like you are starting fresh with the girls being born in different seasons. In my parent's ward, someone threw a shower for a woman who already had 5 kids, both boys and girls. We thought THAT was odd, but still went anyway!
No way would I be offended, I know people that have showers for every baby. Everybody is excited for you and want to share in the joy, and after what you have gone through to get this baby here I think you definantly deserve a shower. My inlaws planned a shower for me when I had Hailey, but it was so close to her coming and I had been having problems, so I didn't even get to go. They each opened their gifts and video taped it and I worried his extended fam would think I was snobish for not being there. Don't worry about it. I would for sure come!
Brooke you are such a sewwt person. Having three girls, and two a year apart I understand where you are coming from. nobody threw me a shower for Cammi, but I had a lot of clothes left over from Jessie so it was ok. When Kaylie was born, it was just nice to have someone want to put together a shower for me. I didn't really care about the gifts, but it was nice to just get together and share the baby and visit. You have a wonderfun friend who wants to do this for you, so enjoy it! I would definetly come if I were there!!!! It's ok to be pregnant and emotional people expect it. he he he he!
you're having a shower and you better be there! no one will think badly of you i promise!
Nah, it's not weird at all. I didn't get a shower for this baby but since she will be in the same season as Natalie, I have all I need. If I were having a baby in the summer, I would DEFINITELY need a shower. Plus you do need baby stuff of your own. I think it would be fun for you and Alaura too!
Absoutely you should have a shower and it's not wierd. I have had a shower with all my kids, and I had the boys first and then the girls. I'm so glad you wrote this post, because a good friend of mine wants to give me a baby shower for this next one and I was very hesitant(?)to say yes. I didn't want people to think why should she get one? But how do you say no to a friend. Plus I have gotten rid of everything since Sara-Jane was going to be the last one, so I told my friend sure why not, So I would definetly come to your shower, I think all babies are special and deserve there own little party to welcome them into to the world.
No, I think every baby should be celebrated. I wish I had had a second one if only for a celebration of the new baby!
I have been invited to a few "not first baby" showers. I am certainly not offended by them
I think each and every baby should have a shower because you are celebrating the life of a child coming into the world not the mother getting "stuff" for her baby. Besides, pregnancy is not easy as we know and we deserve to be "showered" with some attention. Making a life is hard work and every mother every time she is pregnant DESERVES a party for her and her baby!!!! I am not just saying that because I am pregnant either! LOL I truly feel that each baby needs to be honored. :)
Hi Brooke! It's Sammi! Remember me? We were supposed to be roomies but we got married too fast! :) Anyway, about the shower, it is SO NOT WEIRD!!!! With what we pregnant women go through during pregnancy (i am due with number 2 on december 8th) I think we deserve a shower for every baby! Even if it's the 10TH girl! Also, Wendy told me that you do the photography thing now and we are VERY interested! We want pictures done after the baby is born so probably the week before Christmas or even a couple weeks after. Let me know what you have available! Thanks! And have a blast at your shower! :) Sammi
truthfully?
i think you (meaning anyone) should get to have a shower for EVERY baby. seriously, it's not like now that you have one baby you magically have everything you need for another one.
have the shower! i hope you get lots of things you need!
You should go to the shower and not stress about it. 90% of the people that will be coming to the shower would buy a gift for the baby anyway...whether you had a shower or not!!
That is nothing to feel bad about. I say the more parties the merrier. Especially if you didn't instigate it. If I get pregnant again and w/ a girl, I'll need a baby shower because I just sold/gave away all my girl stuff. And that would be baby #4 for me. Besides, us women love gatherings. Especially if we get to leave our current children behind w/ daddy. It's like a girl's night out. Enjoy it!
I haven't read all the comments, but I am pretty sure I agree that you should get a shower with every baby. If anything, it's a great way to get together with loved ones to celebrate the birth of a child.
Go to your shower. Enjoy it. Never, never feel that you have to justify (to ANYONE) either having one or enjoying it.
Showers are given because people love you and want to celebrate your baby with you.
Enjoy, enjoy. No guilt, no guilt, no guilt.
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